Kinda Scary #2

Hmmm....it has only taken me 11 days to post, not bad. I'm trying to understand how to use Facebook, and for a basic cyberspace illiterate, it's a work in progress. SO, you can imagine the issues I'm having with a BLOG!! With that out of the way, I want to talk about grief. How do we handle it, how do we process it? Grief comes in many shapes and degrees to me. The obvious loss to death of a loved one; a parent, a child, spouse. It's part of life and most of us find a way to cope, don't we? There are support groups and books and pastors and friends to console us...most every one has a story of coping with death. But, are we only allowed to grieve for the dead? I have been driven by grief for the loss of someone not by death but by circumstance, fate?,choice. What about that grief that hides in your heart for someone who has left you. It colors everything you do and say. It becomes an obsession that wreaks havoc with your daily life...it can make you physically and mentally ill. I have an obsessive nature, I am quick to act and damn the consequences. I have held grudges longer that I can remember what it was about. I have a child who is the opposite.....quick to forgive and move on. I admire that and I love her all the more because of it. But my grief would not go away...would not release its hold on me until I changed myself. And believe me, it is not easy. One of my dearest friends has a life threatening illness. She told me today:"change is never easy...". Well, life IS ever changing! Adapt, Adapt, Adapt! Move on! Whether it is easy is beside the point. If you are fortunate to have people who love and support you,it makes it easier to accept and move on .Find your way to peace of mind,believe that God is always with you. I believe that He sent His Son, Jesus to give us everlasting life. Highly resistant to what I am told...I (miracle) accepted Him.THAT has made the difference! I am ever mindful of my wrong choices and actions but He has forgiven me and I am moving on. This is my transformation...absolute. For all my loved ones, thank you for your continued support and caring. I will end with one of my (many)favorite (mis)quotes,"I is free, Miss Scarlett!"